Stetching limits for material needs can make you successful too !!!

In world there are two kind of people. One who live within their means and one who don't live within their means. 

Those who live within their means are very settled, satisfied, peaceful beings that live in harmony, never blame anyone for what they have or do not have and always try to make best out of what they have. If they need something ; I mean materialistic , then they will not try to find alternative earnings to get it but will try to cutdown on their own current expenses , try to save money  and eventually and gradually will get it . But they forget that  in the process they cut down on so many things , that what they have acheived really loses its importance because when they were aiming for it they have lost so many other pleasures, entertaining moments and time.

The other are people who when need something will try to stretch their limits, look for alternate earning and in the process evolve as better workers, maagers, employee or business man . Because to earn more they have to stretch their thought process , work outside their current limits and in the process they evolve and gradually become very ambitious and successful.

I guess it has become very complicated to understand.

Lets take an example . What I mean is suppose I need to buy a flat. Then I have two options . First is to cutdown on all my current expenses like my weekend trips, weekly movies, weekly dine out, expensive clothing and food etc. etc.

Second option is since my current job is not meeting my requirements i look fo a better job that pays me well to fund my new flat. So in the process when i look for a better job i improve my current knowledge , gain new experiences and knowledge; perform better at my current job.

I follow same process whenever i needsomething and in the process make myself more successful. Gradually I become more successful and ambitious with my ever growing needs.

I guess TATAS, BIRLAS,AMBANIS would not have benn what they are if they would have lived within their means.

So I guess to be successfull we do not need to work within our limits but stetch our limits !!!

Sense or Soul !!!

A funny thought caught me today :)

Its funny because I was thinking,  if not for our sense organs viz eyes, ear, toungue, nose, skin our life would have been so very different isn't it.

We have to look beautiful for eyes, say good things for ears , eat good or rather tasty things for our toungue , keep clean or hygenic and smell good for our nose and stay comfortable for touch of the skin.

Our brain knows that it doesn't matter how we look or eat or smell or live what only matters is a good and pure soul but these 5 sense organs of ours never let our brain alone and our always pushing themselves on our poor souls.

These 5 organs differentiate me fron Aishwarya Rai otherwise I am as good as her ;) or Priyanka Chopra ;)

What the world would have been without these 5 sense organs ?????? It would rather have been a paradise without any nuisance ............. since we wouldn't care about comforts; we might not have progressed from stone age to this age. Because what has changed over the ages is; what we eat , how we eat , what we look ;how we look and how we  live. Nothing else has gone a change.

But point is if we wouldn't had these 5 organs would we have been able to differentiate between paradise and hell :)

What are friends and Family for ???

This question arises in my mind many a times when I stay here in US far apart from friends and family.

I guess Family is our support system . Family is needed to help us when we are suffering . Family is needed when we have to hide some secrets from outside world. Family is needed when we have to celebrate something. Family is needed to help us grieve . Family is needed for emotional and financial support. Though who we consider our family might be different at different stages of life; like for a child its his mother. for a kid his parents and grand parents. For a teen its his parents. If we are able to rely on our parents for all types of support during our teen age then I guess we grow up as very Strong and self confident human beings. After marriage its our spouse. Though faces in our family keep changing or adding our expectation from them never.

Friends our for fun, for our social development which can not happen in the protecting shield of family. Though for some people friends might turn into families , but that phenomenon is quite rare these days because today friends are more into competition, in the race to out do each other professionally or financially . So that warmth which I used to see between our family friends when i was a kid , I rarely see between friends these days.

Think Positive !!

This is nice compilation I found on web about - finding positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do. Some of them may directly relate to us presently  and others might be in future

I am thankful...

1. For the husband who snores all night, because he is at home asleep with me and not with someone else.

2. For my teenage daughter who is complaining about doing dishes, because that means she is at home & not on the streets.

3. For the taxes that I pay because it means that I am employed.

4. For the mess to clean after a party because it means that I have been surrounded by friends.

5. For the clothes that fit a little too snug because it means I have enough to eat.

6. For my shadow that watches me work because it means I am out in the sunshine.

7. For a floor that needs mopping, and windows that need cleaning because it means I have a home.

8. For all the complaining I hear about the government because it means that we have freedom of speech.

9. For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.

10. For the noise I have to bear from my neighbours because it means that I can hear.

11. For the pile of laundry and ironing because it means I have clothes to wear.

12. For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means I have been capable of working hard.

13. For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours because it means that I am still alive.

AND FINALLY .......

For reading this blog because it means I have friends who are thinking of me, at least.

"Har window kuch kehtaa hai"

I have always felt some mystical ,some anxious,some enthusiastic whenever i see windows because they always paved way for my imaginations as to what must be happening besides them :). I don't know how many of you share same feelings.

There have been different phases of my life and every phase is associated with windows that i always look through to find some thing thats hidden behind them. As a child or rather student I remember those long hours of study and the window in my study room; when i used to look through them every now and then as and when i got bored of my studies. Late at night be it 2 or 3 whenever i went to sleep it was my habit to look into dark to find something, to know all other windows in the area which are still lit. To know who else is a partner to me in studies, because my friends house was near by and i wanted to know if they were also still studying :)

Then when i got a job and lived in PG every evening after job we stand in balcony to see the life of other normal people who are not software engineers:) 

I feel that software engineers are altogether different genre of people who rarely faces any windows in their closed offices and have no exposure tp window scenes. And the evening balcony session  was a treat for a software engineer because now you can look around and find people do much better things rather than sit in front of computers for hours and hours. Kids playing, group of aunts chit chatting, shopkeepers, traffic, buses, cars, bikers, young lads enjoying, that window used to open me to a whole new world. 

Then when I am married and not on job  i find these windows very interesting.The window of my opposite flat tell me whether my neighbor is in or not as ...as long he is in I can watch his TV through his window, again there are windows ; whose lights when on tell me whether my friends in near by flats are at home or gone for an evening walk.........If someone has been out of town that too i can tell when i see that there are no lights turn on for more than a day.

When i go for morning walks i like to look through all open windows and find how someone has decorated his house in Xmas time many a Xmas tree are visible through them. Sometimes I see very beautiful paintings, wind chimes, curtains that are showcasing through the windows :)

So yes "har window kuch kehatie hai." it might not be a tale but yes some beautiful things, some secrets, some mischevious habits :)

BURA na MANO HOLI HAI !!

Happy Holi to all the readers !!!

I know most of us know why do we celebrate holi ..bcoz ......Radha Krishna celebrated holi :)

If Radha Krishan had not played one ............had we played so ???

I don't really know but I guess .if they had not played it.............might be holi was not been so popular............and not many people knew of it....and might be our ancestors didn't know about it....and eventually we might not have been aware that there is a festival of colors HOLI !!!!

I know this is all hypothetical......but I am thinking all this because in the story of Prahalad, Hirankashyap and Holika..there is no concept of colors !!!! for those who don't know about that story let me know and i shall get the topic for my next blog :)

But here we are focusing on festival of colors Holi and how is it related to Holika ? No colorful holi is not at all realted to Holika.....only the part of victory of good over evil where we burn holika and save prahalad is related to Holika.

The later part that means the next day when we play with colors all credit goes to Radha Krishan..............as after my research through many websites i found out that playing with colors was started by Krishna .......and lately all boys in vrindavan followed the suite because after all which boys would not like to play holi with gopis :)

So now you know that if Krishna and Radha had not played holi then no one would have............neither our ancestors and nor us................so you see finally my hypothesis was so correct.

If you feel confused and irritated  then "BURA na MANO HOLI HAI !!!"

A news that really excites me !!!

A shortlist of 50 candidates from 22 countries has been selected for "the best job in the world" -- being well paid to spend six months on a tropical Australian island, organisers said Tuesday.  This is the same job whose website was hit so many times that it came down just after the openning was announced.

I am delighted that there are 2 Indians among them and I am also delighted that Kim whom i follow on exotica on Star Plus is also among those sjortlisted.

One more thing which came to  my mind was I came to know what sort of people apply for such jobs. One is a Traveller and  another is a RJ Anjaan. These people are adventurous people who have fallen for adventure naturally all there lives :)

Someone who can speak and entertain others with their witty comments and who can explore world !!!

This is really interesting. Have a look at the article at the link below and do not fail to vote for deserving candidates.

 http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Business/International-Business/Top-50-shortlisted-for-best-job-in-world/articleshow/4215830.cms

Global meltdown hit me !!!

Yes it has hit me finally. No its not a cricket ball that has hit me but its the 3 months old news of few foreign banks going bankrupt that has hit me finally .

At that time only thought which came to my mind was "Thanks god that Indian banks are all PSU and they can never go bankrupt keeping my savings ;though not an enormous amount but a few thousand safe". So what if it is just few thousand ??? It is hard earned money. And I hope; you understand , how hard earned a software engineer's money is. :)

But today when I complete 10 months of my vacation at this beautiful US city, I am haunted by thoughts of going back to India alone and not with my husband as planned . And all this ,because there are no more software job for me in US .This is because few bankrupt foreign banks have fuelled this global economic melt down ; which I guess, I can never understand "How ?" .

When I had come from India I had been missing India and more the city Pune where I and my beloved had spent some beautiful days full of love and fun. And it is very strange and surprising to me that now when going back to India after whole lot of cribbing and cursing US for missing Indian food, crowd, etc etc I have started to miss this beautiul US city already.

It is great to learn that just the thought of leaving my husband here and going back has made me all praise for this city, whether be its greenery, less crowded streets, public transport buses, a bus stop bench where me and my husband have spent many a beautiful evenings discussing evrything from our family, love, work ,social life and economics.

I can now understand that how love of one human being can change everything in my life ; while leaving Pune, or Jaipur where my parents lived; or leaving my professional career for which i had worked hard all my student life ;I was all joy , as I was to reunite with him. And now when I have to go back to my parents my much worked for professional career; I don't feel any joy, instead my heart is full of sorrows. Its very heavy feeling and I cannot at all come to terms to be going away from him to our motherland and my career.

Oscar Goes to India Finally!!!

So finally A R Rahman bagged India the most awaited award not one but two.

I am really happy over the victory of fellow Indian. I am overjoyed with the celebrations that Indians are enjoying not only in India but through out the world.

I know the movie Slumdog Millionaire does not exhibit India in the way I would like to show off it to world.........but never the less It does exhibit some gray shades of India which co exist with all other good things in India. I would like to take the story/screenplay of "Slumdog Millionaire" as a pinch of salt .

What is good is that it has got recognition to Indian Music. Indian Lyrics.Indian story .

I was also more than happy to see bollywood style dancing on the Oscars stage. That was a kind of icicng on the cake :)

But when i shared with my fellow Indians back home; some of whom were Tamilians.................they could not help themseleves from boasting that A R Rahman is a tamilian...........now how does that matter to me a north Indian ???????

I never listen to music categorising it according to whether it is composed by north Indian or South Indian. This only forced me to think whether :

1. Will if A R Rahman was from my state had I boasted in same way ?

2. Will Hindus and Muslims back in India also boast it in a different way ?

3.Why after studies of so many years where curricular books repeatedlly teach us that India is a secular country with so many cultures and states and we all Indians are brothers and sisters this feeling of being a hindu or tamilian or marathi etc etc are so strong ?

4.Whom should i Blame for this?our education system ?

5.Which education system the schools, the teachers or parents ?

Anyways.....I hope there are many people in my generation who think alike and soon there will be an India where people will not think which state or which religion do we belong to.

I also hope that in near future we will have a  feeling good Oscar winning movie which will also exhibit India in a very beautiful way :)

So what's new today !!!

A news article that Indian cricket team did not get luggage management staff at New Zealand airport.

When i first heard this news I thot another non-issue made an issue by news channels to increase their ratings.

Don't know but why these days whenever I see a popular hindi news Channel AAJTAK I feel like another issue raised just for channel ratings. I can never feel that it is serious reporting.

Might be its the negative effect of the channel's propoganda that they are Best news channel in 8 years and have won so and so news awards.

This is human nature you never like someone who boasts of oneself be it your family members , friends, colleagues etc.and now i guess it has extended to this news channel which boasts of itself.

I am not against the channel.but the way it boasts of itself :) 

So now coming to the news article about Indian cricket team first I thought whats the big deal.....I always manage my luggage myself whenever I go on a trip be it personal or professional. We Indians have a habbit of being at luxury of manual labours, be it our domestic help, gardener, milk delivery man on and on. And now we want same when we go to west...where manual labor or help is so expensive that a pumbler can earn more than generously paid professional in India :))

But no it is not about inability of team India to manage there own luggage they can very well do this and infact did it. But what if they had got muscle pull in their back because of pulling trolleys with 7 bats-4 shoes pair etc and etc  ??? Imagine Sachin Tendulkar receive a muscle pull just before the series ??

Who would have been at lost Indian team or New zealand team ?

Now question is why did this happen ??

1. Because to west Indains are still some third world country citizens ?

2. Because its the culture in New zealand and NewZealand cricket board does not care what arrangements are made for their team when they reach India?

3.Or any other ??? I am unable to think of it .

Intezaar...wait.........hope

Yes Intezaar.wait.hope..............I understand that wait means intezaar.....but does it also means waste of time ??

Yes It does only if there is no hope. There are no regrets in life once you acheive what you want to but through the journey of achievemnet you sure get too many occassions to regret.

Now should i take those moments of regret as really regretfull or just give myself hope that this is journey to achievement :)

I guess later option is better as it always infuse confidence in me for more timw of wait to come. But how long will be this journey; will it ever end; who does realy know what i want to acheive and what is the end of acheivement for me.